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Conversation: Divorce Advice for Men
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Started by: sandy_swiss
on: 06/24/2010 09:22 AM |
| A friend of mine is currently having a divorce battle. The website www.dadsdivorce.com has really been helping him and offers great divorce advice for men. It gives resources to help men understand what their child or children may be going through etc. For all of you guys going through something similar I know it can help! |
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Conversation: What is next?
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Started by: edita
on: 09/30/2009 08:21 PM |
| Is this sense of failure common? |
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Conversation: How do I get my divorce to speed up?
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Started by: RidemyHarley
on: 09/15/2009 03:15 PM |
| My wife filed on me in February 2009. Since that time, her attorney has filed several discovery motions, of which I have complied, but my attorney suggested we wait for them to start with an offer settlement. On June 2 , 2009 the 4 of us met to try tp move the process forward. Her attorney promised he would have a settlement offer to us by June 23, 2009. Well, today is Sept. 15, 2009, and still no settlement offer, in fact last week, her attorney sent my attorney a letter stating that they are now prepared to receive a settlement offer from us. We have a monthly court date, which I see as useless nothing is happening. There are very little assets, and the legal fees are running in the thousands of dollars a month. What can I do? I just want this final, but I am staring bankruptcy in the face, I cannot afford thousands a month in legal fees. We have a court date for tomorrow, I have asked my attorney to file a pre trial motion, I understand a judge will decide everything then, but at least it will be final. We live in Illinois if that helps. Thanks!! |
| 1 commentsLast comment: 09/18/2009 02:05 PM |
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Conversation: Need to hear similar stories
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Started by: Pooh
on: 09/07/2009 05:31 PM |
| I recently filed for divorce, I have found emails my husband have sent to gay men, a few websites he has created profiles looking for men and when I comfronted him he says he's not gay he is looking for friends and it's a joke. i am so embarrased I just want him out of my life. |
| 1 commentsLast comment: 09/09/2009 11:52 AM |
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Conversation: Success stories category is needed here.
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Started by: David
on: 09/03/2009 06:32 PM |
We need a new category in this conversations section: Success stories.
I want to hear from people who have suffered through the fires of divorce and came out the other side alive and kicking.
I want to know that after my wife destroyed my finances, credit, and income I will survive.
I want to know that after my wife destroyed my family and home I will survive.
I want to know that after my wife destroyed my heart, soul, and passion I will survive.
I want to know that after my wife destroyed everything I spent years building up I will survive.
If you have a success story - I want to hear it.
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Conversation: How to open up to people
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Started by: petlin
on: 08/09/2009 03:51 PM |
| I left my husband 2 years ago, divorce was final 18 months ago and I am lost about how to date. We were married for 23 years and I shut down for probably the last 10. He has a very strong personality and had no confusion as to what he wanted. His wants were his needs. It was easier for me to stop wanting than to fight for anything. Now that I am on my own, I don't know what I want. One of my biggest problems is that I am way too serious about everything. We didn't socialize a whole lot so I never learned the gift of gab. It is definitely easier for me to be alone than with others though I know this needs to change. I find that I connect easily with a few people but am nervous and very quiet with most people. If I meet/see a man that interests me I definitely clam up. If I have a beer or two I am much more talkative but I don't want to rely on alcohol. How do I be that person without the drink? Also, it is hard for me to allow someone else to pick up the tab for what we do. This is partly pride, not wanting to owe anyone anything and having been the one in the marriage to manage the bills. It seems selfish to expect someone else to pick up the tab for what "we" do, yet my friends insist that is one of benefits of being single. Sorry to have so much in one question but since this is my first post(?) I guess I got carried away. Any thoughts or suggestions are welcome. Thanks. |
| 3 commentsLast comment: 09/09/2009 06:16 PM |
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Conversation: bored
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Started by: hopeless
on: 08/03/2009 12:20 AM |
| i am here tonight if any one would like to chat awhile. |
| 1 commentsLast comment: 08/03/2009 10:48 AM |
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Conversation: What should the kids know / when
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Started by: dealingwithit
on: 07/20/2009 12:49 PM |
Hi there. I'm new to this group. Divorce should be final in the next 60 days or so. She's moving out in 3-4 weeks.
Back story: she cheated, mutiple partners, some physical, some internet, over a 4 year period. Gave her every chance to change, she is obviously unwilling, and she called it quits. I made mistakes, too. Tried to control, spy, etc. We are being civil and will share custody.
We told the kids (boys 8 and 10, girl 5) last week. We gave no details at all, other then we'll be sharing custody, mommy has a new apartment, new job, etc. The kids, so far, have taken it well. They are even a little excited (mommy's apartment has a pool!). They really think it's no big deal, so far.
When does the teachable moment come when we can impress upon them that divorce is a bad thing and should be avoided? I want them to have the same distaste for divorce that I do. I want them to know how hard I fought to avoid it. Not out of pride, but for their future. I want their future spouse to know that my kids can be counted on to tough out the bad times. We are christians, and the 2 older kids are saved, the girl is close to that point.
My assumption is that I must wait, let some time pass, and gradually lead them to this conclusion. I don't want to sabotage their positive feelings about mommy, nor do I want to come off as the bitter one who was the dumpee, not the dumper.
Does anyone have any positive, real experiences to share? Theory I can get elsewhere. I'm looking for someone who's been there and done it. |
| 3 commentsLast comment: 07/25/2009 11:34 PM |
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Conversation: Is a separation agreement a binding one?
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Started by: Brandii
on: 07/10/2009 04:07 PM |
| My husband and I signed a separation agreement in April of this and I was just informed by my 10 yr old son accidently that he has been dating another women for at least the past 6 weeks. She has been interacting with my son without my permission or knowledge. How does the separation agreement work? It states in our agreement that both parents are not to date or get involved with anyone until the divorce is final, but he already has. What can I do? Just feel helpless and disrespected. |
| 2 commentsLast comment: 07/24/2009 04:12 PM |
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Conversation: New to the Group
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Started by: patticakes128
on: 06/29/2009 05:17 PM |
Hi - I'm new to this group and I think I just need to know I'm not the only person having gone through a divorce and am still having a hard time even after almost 2 years.
Mine is more of a story of cold-hearted dysfunctional in-laws who had/have no regard for their daughter-in-law and especially their grandchildren. 25 years ago tomorrow, I married a Momma's Boy. He was great at first but as the years went on a lot of things happened and he couldn't hold a job, had health issues he wasn't addressing and preferred to just stay home and be depressed all the time. It finally got to the point where he just listened to what Mommy said and never defended me when she said nasty things about me (although he swears he did, but never in front of me). He always found someone in the family to bail us out of debt but never once showed any appreciation. I personally think he had a nervous breakdown and/or mid-life crisis. He had no motivation at all - unless it had to do with sports!
A lot more things happened both emotionally and financially.
Anyone out therewith the same sort of story?
Pat |
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